How to Turn it Into A Positive and Empowering Experience
Rejection is inevitable. One thing you can be sure of, as you make strides to advance your professional status, rejection will tap on your door periodically as a test of your convictions. Sometimes the higher you set the bar, the harder the fall. Rejection may cause you excruciating pain and remorse. It may even temporarily cause creative paralysis.
However, on a positive note, criticism and rejection can serve as powerful sources of growth and transformation.
Remind yourself about the many famous artists — even Renoir — who were rejected one day and raised to idol status the next. Popularity has its ups and downs. One person’s opinion does not represent everyone, no matter what credentials they have. Get back up and you’ll find fans who will sing your praises. Most likely, in time you’ll forget all about this rejection.
An artist recently confessed that he was allowing his fear of rejection prevent him from performing art marketing activities. He was depressed about not achieving his desired creative, financial and career goals. He needed my help on how to handle rejection as an artist once before we could go further. After our conversation I decided to write this article to help other artists who are facing similar situations.
First Step: Detach Yourself Emotionally
As a professional artist it’s important to prevent your emotions from interfering from your professional life and clouding your business judgment. Receiving feedback about your art is okay and can be helpful; however, it is crucial that you detach yourself emotionally from it. Remind yourself that you are not your artwork and any negative response to it is not an attack on you.
As one who has sat on many jurying panels
I can tell you what is one “expert” juror’s “Best Choice”
may be another juror’s choice as “Worst” and “Reject”.
Build yourself a foundation and fortress constructed with
positive pillars of confidence, passion, positivity and persistence.
Don’t Allow Opinions To Diminish Your Self Worth
In many situations, you may never know the real reason why your work was rejected. If so, don’t waste your energy trying to analyze something you may never understand. There are many uncontrollable factors that have nothing to do with you or the quality of your work.
Rejection is frequently the result of an opinion of one or more individuals. As a professional who has sat on many jurying panels I know this to be true. I’ve witnessed firsthand what is one “expert” juror’s “Best Choice” may be another juror’s “Worst”. And, they both may have years of professional experience and incredible credentials. Jurying is not a science nor is it a case of fairness.
History has proven that the judgments of “experts” are always in a state of flux. Robert Rauschenberg’s first show at Leo Castelli Gallery barely got off the ground. Jean Dubuffet didn’t have his first exhibition until he reached the ripe age of 43. Historically, the Whitney Biennials have become the show many critics love to hate. For several years people have claimed that painting is dead, yet we know that is far from true!
In the final analysis, the only evaluation that should be of real value to you should be your own. And, be kind and gentle with yourself. To shield yourself from emotional destruction build a fortress constructed with a positive attitude, confidence, passion and persistence.
Use The Experience As A Source of Creative Energy
Rejection can serve as a powerful stimulus to creative productivity. Instead of letting rejection tear you apart transform the emotions into a work of art. It may be among the most satisfying works you have ever created. As an artist you have the ability to express your pain through a variety of modes and materials. The creative process can serve as a cathartic healing tonic in your life and career.
Turn The Rejection Into A Learning Experience
After you experience a form of rejection or criticism, try to step back and review the events objectively, as though you were watching a movie about someone else, while you ask yourself some questions. Perceive this self examination purely as an instrument to learn something that will empower you.
Examine your reactions to rejection and you’ll find the tools to expand your education, personal growth and humility. If the causes for receiving a negative reaction to your work are clear, you can avoid repeating the experience. It has been said the only bad experience is one in which you didn’t learn anything.
Consider These Questions
* At what stage in the process did the situation go badly?
* Did you submit your best quality works of art for consideration?
* Were the decision-makers partial to a style or medium different than yours?
* Did your behavior during the interview jeopardize your chances of getting accepted?
* Did you make a sincere effort to prepare for this opportunity?
* Could you have sent out more proposals to increase your chances of getting positive results?
* Were you lacking the criteria that the other artists who were competing against you had?
* Did you rely on someone else to carry out your presentation instead of doing it yourself?
“Don’t judge each day by the harvest you reap but by the seeds that you plant.”
~Robert Louis Stevenson
Become More Positive, Proactive and Persistent
One of the best pieces of advice I can offer to increase your odds is to increase your activities. Aim for persistence and remember the positive words of Thomas A. Edison: “Results! I have gotten thousands of results. I know several thousand things that won’t work.”
Try this fun exercise: Every time you receive a rejection notice, balance the scales by sending out more proposals and making more phone calls, and thereby increasing your chances of receiving positive feedback. For example, estimate the number of attempts you have to make before you finally sell a work of art or acquire a commission. Divide the selling price by that number. Every time you receive a rejection, say to yourself, “I am ‘X’ prospects closer to meeting the buyer.”
Don’t Burn Your Bridges
In the face of rejection, be as gracious as possible, safeguard your dignity and ego and don’t burn bridges. If one gallery rejects your work, it may not close the door permanently. If you think your work is appropriate for them, try again later.
Many events may affect their attitude in the future, such as the director may get fired, their finances may improve, or an artist may leave and create an opening for you. In addition, I have known artists to be rejected by the directors of the galleries only to be contacted by their assistants who opened their own galleries.
Consider Revising Your Goals and Strategies
If you’re not receiving as many acceptances as you would like, examine the methods you are currently using. Review your art business plan; it may need some changes. Does it still fit your needs? Does it support the changes in the economy? Do you need to search for new alternatives? What useful tactics of successful artists can you apply?
Steevie Jane Parks says
Hi Renee’… Great article as usual. Learning to handle art rejection is a major issue for me and I know for others as well. My knee jerk reaction is to get angry and distance myself from the rejector forever, but as you point out, in the article, that doesn’t help my art career one bit. I have found that when I just don’t care what happens when I submit a piece, I am likely to get a better result. I think the reason that this happens is because I obsess and obsess about which paintings to include and what to say about them, and I end up with something that resembles an overused rubber eraser. I have found it extremely helpful to visualize the judges having a positive response. It takes away some of my anxiety about pressing ‘send’. I also find it helpful to ‘press send’ and put the copy of the application in a folder’ and try to forget all about it. One of my most powerful memories about applying to jobs was in 1978, just after I graduated from college. I had to hand type 275 resumes before landing one single job. That was just how it was during the ‘recession’ in NYC. But I did get a decent job and kept getting them. I try to remember that anything you compete for will have risks and it means absolutely nothing about you as a person if you do not appeal to 274/275 during a recession. Applying to some art shows and art galleries is easier than that.. but still carries risks. I recently applied to what I consider to be the best local gallery where I live. I applied and got rejected from the second best this past summer. So it’s a real long shot. This article reached me at the right time. I’m going to start visualizing the judges saying things like ‘Wow, Steevie has really come a long way, let’s give her a chance to prove herself’. Couldn’t hurt?
Renee Phillips says
Dear Steevie, I love your positive attitude! Thank you for your enlightening comment. I’m sure many artists will benefit from reading it. And, whenever you need to be reminded of your extraordinary talent, read the Art Review I wrote about your art: “Steevie Jane Parks Unites the Healing Dynamics of Colors and Forms” at https://www.healing-power-of-art.org/steevie-jane-parks-unites-the-healing-dynamics-of-colors-and-forms/
All the best to you, Renee
Andrea Robinson says
Thank you Renee.
Very much appreciate your advice, and i have printed it out and popped it up onto my wall.
Renee Phillips says
Thank you Andrea. What an honor it is to have my words hanging on your wall. I hope it brings you comfort and resilience. 🙂
Susan Ashley, Mixed media_AshleyArts says
I find Renee Phillips has a kindness and a way of sharing possible improvements for Artist’s with occasional rejection… Really Happy I soon will have my art to submit again to Healing Power of Art. The recent event has deadline in Dec., to show in the early time of 2023. This theme is Healing Power of ART INDPIRED BY NATURE.
Renee Phillips says
Thank you Susan for your kind words. As an artist who creates art with heart-filled compassion for others your words are very meaningful to me.
Victor L Davson says
Rejection should be expected as a natural part of doing business in the arts. It’s not personal—you just need to know the reason your work (not you) were rejected and then go to work on fixing it.
Renee Phillips says
Thank you Victor for your excellent advice and healthy attitude!
jane caminos says
What a wonderful surprise to open my laptop and find my buddy and muse, Malala, looking at me.
Thanks, Renee, for using her as an illustration for your helpful article. She’s been a great help to me during the ups and downs of life, Hopefully, she will help others as well.
Renee Phillips says
Dear Jane,
Thank you for creating this powerful painting that resonates tremendous courage and hope.
A word to everyone – you must visit Jane Caminos’ website at http://www.janecaminos.com.
Best regards,
Renee
Yvonne Welman says
Hi Renee
I learn a lot from your articles and yes I was too sensitive about rejection. Now I know I have to be very careful about choosing projects. I get fewer rejections and often positive ones. They let me know my work is good but it did not fit in with the rest. Which I think is even a compliment in a way. The rejections become part of the process to learn what people want. I use it to learn how I can keep the attention fixed on my work. I want my stories to reach people. Also I am really blessed because I don,t have to live from my work. I am at liberty to refuse a commission if I don,t like it. Best wishes
Jeremy Farmer says
Interesting comments regarding fear of rejection. I have been painting and selling for many years but all through my own contacts. I occasionally exhibit in group shows and have had two or three solo shows. The solo shows have been the most successful. I hate the idea of standing still in my work and therefore continue to try and take risks. I undertake a number of well paid commissions but sales from my exhibitions have been less successful recently. Can’t work out why?
Renee Phillips says
Hi Jeremy, thank you for your comment. There could be many different reasons for why your sales have been lower recently. Factors could range from exhibiting in the wrong type of venues to insufficient promotion and failure to target the right audience, aside from the artwork you’re producing. I hope you find the articles here on those subjects to be helpful. If you want a more personalized evaluation and strategies please consider my private career consultation services available by phone. Best wishes, Renee